Experiencing stomach pains or sweaty palms before the wedding day , I was not fair ? And it happens to anyone. Uh , who's to say ? A new study by Florida State University found that people should not ignore them feeling nervous before going up to the altar.
James K. McNulty , PhD , a professor of psychology , asked 135 newlywed couples to describe their wedding with adjectives such as " good " , " bad " , " satisfactory " and "unsatisfactory " , and then match them with their instincts by engaging subjects in word association game involving a couple of photos .
When the researchers examined the respondent 's four years later , they discovered that the newlyweds who first showed negative feelings about their partner's instinct has now become a bride and groom who are not happy in their marriage .
" The findings suggest that people might want to believe their nervousness , " said Mc Nulty .
" If they can feel that this is not just a nervous feeling excited wedding party but also a bad feeling about your future husband , it would be better if it involve for example a wedding consultant to help resolve these doubts before the wedding run."This is not the first study to demonstrate the accuracy of nervousness when she got married . In 2011 , a study conducted the University of California , Los Angeles found that people - especially women - who are unsure or hesitant when married are more likely to experience divorce later .
Then why did someone say " Yes " if the question is actually " No" ?
"The industry has become so lavish wedding . Many things such as an expensive dress , the guest list is a lot , a reception that attracts attention, which makes many people doubt and ultimately bury bad feeling they
felt , "said Wendy Walsh , PhD , a psychotherapist from Los Angeles .
" The image of this wedding reception cover all doubts about the relationship with the partner , especially if the family has spent a lot of expense for a luxury wedding and felt it was too late to cancel
everything," No matter how often people ignore her feelings , negative feelings will eventually emerge and become the fact that, as the psychotherapist .
One of the factors that led to the couple who had divorced hesitation is because many of them do not have wedding plans mature . So even people who are raised by parents who divorced , so it may not have an example of a healthy romance , which makes it less likely unwittingly chose the wrong partner .
It is important for you to ask yourself whether your nervousness ahead of the big day ( wedding ) caused by the affair wedding reception ( catering , building , marriage bands ) or by the person you will marry ?
" In any relationship , you should be recognized and respected , even when experiencing difficult times , " says Walsh .
" If you feel at the bottom of our hearts that your happiness is not fulfilled by it , it's time to talk . "
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